Drug intervention in Connecticut
Looking at a Connecticut Drug intervention for a loved one or for yourself
can be a frustrating experience. What type of drug rehab treatment is the best? How long should the alcohol treatment be? Should the drug and alcohol detox or rehab be out-patient or residential rehabilitation treatment?
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Drug Intervention is the first and one the most important phase for recovery.
The first thing to do is to find the right rehabilitation center for the drug addict. When you get the person to agree to go to rehab, it is not time to find a rehab, it is time to go. This is a very critical point of the intervention. How to find a rehab is all covered in the section Rehabilitation. Every single thing has to be ready.
What is the ruin of the addict?
The drug addict has things in his/her past or present that seems like a devastating event and which has something to do with drugs. One example is a person that has lost his best friends due to his drug addiction. Another example is a person losing his wife and child over drug abuse. A family member can look at a drug addict’s life and see hundreds of reasons he/she should quit using but unfortunately these reasons are not REAL to the drug addict. There is however problems the drug addict encounters that are real or significant in the addicts life, which he/she sees as a reason to quit using drugs. These are important to identify because they can be used during the intervention to remind the drug addict why he/she must seek help. What pressures does the drug addict feel now?
What pressures does the addict feel now?
The drug addict doesn’t necessarily have the same reality about their addiction that non-addicts might. For instance, he/she may have semi serious health problems/no friends and no job or income but feel like they are “doing OK”. Manydrug addicts have actually overdosed on drugs coming very close to death and are right back using drugs the very next day. This may appear crazy but in fact is only part of the pain for the drug addict.
With this in mind, the drug addict from time to time will encounter added pressure, which forces them to make an actual decision about whether to seek rehabilitation or continue to use drugs.
Pending legal charges that could easily lead to jail time, threat of losing spouse, pending loss of job, all are possible situations where a person has enough pressure to fight the addiction and seek rehabilitation. Although anyone in particular may not work in your situation, there are pressures that can come to bear which will help prod the drug addict into a decision to seek rehabilitation. It is easy to assume the drug addict is “only seeking rehabilitation to avoid jail” or some other evaluation which in many cases is true. The fact remains that a drug addict will only seek rehabilitation when someone or some thing pushes him out of his ” addiction comfort zone” and forces him into a decision. Very few drug addicts with access to money, a place to live, people who agree with his usage and no legal issues seek rehabilitation. They “don’t have a problem”. This is very important to understand and will be crucial in any attempt at intervention.
Who should be there?
One of the major considerations involving intervention is selecting who will be there. This matter should be well thought out before hand. The number of people there is less important than who is there. If at all possible, the person in the family whom the drug addict respects the most should be there.
This person is an opinion leader to the drug addict and needs to be there fully supportive of getting the person help and informed well about the actual agenda.
As many family members as possible should be there as long as each and every one are completely in agreement about the fact that the drug addict needs help and supportive of the general agenda. If someone in the family is antagonistic against the drug addict and is not capable of restraining themselves from arguments and blame then you might consider leaving them out.
Usually, the drug addict has many enemies and has done wrong to most of the family. But arguments that are agitated and disturbing will not benefit the cause of getting the drug addict to seek rehabilitation and in fact will usually result in stopping this from happening because the focus of attention gets placed on the argument and not on the matters at hand.
Many people hire professional intervention counselors to run the intervention. This is advisable in many situations but not a necessity in most. This depends largely on individual circumstances. For instance, does the drug addict have pending legal issues, external pressures etc. or does the person deny completely any drug usage. These type factors need to be considered intensely before bringing in an interventionist.
You may want to seek rehabilitation in establishing who should be present at the intervention because it is a crucial factor.
When is the appropriate time?
When does the intervention take place? Ideally this has less to do with the family schedule and more to do with what’s going on in the drug addict’s life.
The optimum time for an intervention is just after a major event. Such an event would be arrested, or when he/she has wronged (lied, stolen, cheated etc.) a family member and shows remorse or guilt. Another would be spouse leaving. Yet another would be after an overdose. Although you obviously don’t want to risk the drug addict’s life by postponing forever, an intervention will be exponentially more effective after such events when the drug addict is down and feels like his/her world is coming to an end.
Even in the absence of these situations, an intervention can be successful especially if the family is close to the drug addict daily so that every little situation is known. A drug addict’s life is a major roller coaster and the only way a drug addict can deny their problem is to successfully hide these problems from those who love him.
A major consideration should be when the drug addict is sober. In the case of Cocaine, Methamphetamine etc. this should be in the morning after the drug addict has slept. In the case of Heroin or Methadone or opiate type drugs, it will be when they are withdrawing and not high. In either case attempting an intervention while a person is extremely high will usually not be productive because the drug addict can not see many of their problems and their attention will fixed elsewhere.
In general, the timing of the intervention is crucial and needs planning but at the same time a drug addict life is very unstable so opportunities present themselves reasonably frequently.
What is the general language or message?
The tone should be concern. The intention should be clear. It should be unwavering.
” We love you, we’ve always loved you, we’ll never stop loving you but we’re not willing to watch you kill yourself with drugs”.
The family should definitely express concern but not sympathize with the drug addict. Sympathy is a form of agreement and can back fire by justifying the addiction.
Without any anger or fear, the drug addict should “get” from every one present that the situation is known and that he/she needs rehabilitation. Don’t allow stories of family problems and life’s troubles sway the attention off the point that the drug addict has a problem and needs to seek rehabilitation fixing it. This is where the family’s preparation pays off.
What is Plan B?
An intervention with proper planning and carried out correctly will result many times in a drug addict agreeing to receive help. But you must accept the fact that ultimately the drug addict may for whatever reason say “NO”. This scenario needs to be thought out in advance so that the family consistently moves to the proverbial -plan B.
If for whatever reason the intervention fails, the drug addict is still a drug addict and statistically the situation will likely get worse not better, so what is the action taken by the family at this point? The family knows the person is addicted and the drug addict has been confronted with this fact so whatever message the family gives the drug addict at this point is critical.
By refusing to seek rehabilitation, the drug addict in general is saying to the family ” I want to continue to use drugs. I want to continue the families suffering. I want to control my own life.” The family will intern answer with every word and action taken. If the family says ” I understand. Please leave and don’t expect any money or support in any way, unless you decide to go to rehabilitation.” Then the drug addict is left to run his/her life which they generally do not have the ability to do, and before long you have a person who “DECIDES” that rehabilitation is the best thing and calls saying just that. If on the other hand the family sort of acts disappointed and carries on as usual, then the drug addict gets the message that it is OK to continue this life style and will put up even more resistance to intervention in the future having bested the intervention team previously.
Obviously, there are certain risks involved with either approach and should be evaluated clearly before hand. One thing is certain, as long as the drug addict continues to use, they risk the only one thing they have; their life.
The bottom line is that a drug addict needs to decide, for whatever reason, that they need rehabilitation. Most ” locked down ” approaches fail because the drug addict is not part of the recovery. The only way a drug addict can usually fight against the addiction is when enough external pressure is applied to cause them to decide to quit. Many call this “the bottom”. However, there can be many bottoms. Obviously some are lower than others, but each can make a person quit drugs. It just depends on what happens when the person is there. For instance a person is facing serious charges and is very scared. The person will either have an intervention and go to rehabilitation or will get through this situation and be back out using drugs. In the final analysis, it is often the family who both spots the incident and uses it to achieve rehabilitation, or misses and waits.